Wow, I, too, find myself tearing up at the thought of saying goodbye to ASL, though clearly the spam is uncontrollable. I have not posted much, but read faithfully. So, though I may not really be known I feel I know everyone. And I have to say, I really think it was asl that finally prompted me to fully admit to myself that I am a lesbian. I had always kind of thought it was likely, thus my original furtive reading of ASL. Then I began to think, not only is this a group of people that I wouldn't mind being associated with, I thought "I would be proud to be considered one of them!" Reading ASL made me more comfortable with who I am. I was able to share things from ASL with a co-worker without hiding the name of the newsgroup and I realized that if was going to find someone I would be happy to share my life with, I was going to have to look for a woman. And strangely enough, within about six months of finally coming out to myself I did find someone I plan to share my life with. I met her online, though not through ASL. Unfortunately, we currently have an ocean in the way of being together but are confident we will manage to work it out. I want to thank ASL, because I am not sure how long it would have taken me to decide to be myself and follow where my heart led me had I not felt I had the support, however unknowing, of my sisters on ASL. Thanks, all of you, and those who I no longer see, though I hope they are still around somewhere, for everything. Goodbye ASL..... Long live ASLM!! Fondly, Alix Adidas